i will never give up

Its been about four weeks and I really had to put my thoughts together before writing about this.  I also wanted to have some reflection on the situation.
I had a setback in my mind, but now I see it as an opportunity to show that Jesus is always with you, you should never give up. I was called by the superintendent of the contracting firm that I was doing the single family homes for in Stanford and told I was being replaced.  She said my drawings were insufficient.  (That is the nice version). I asked,  “how I can I fix this? how can I make this right?” She said, “you can do nothing, I have someone else ready to take your job.”  I was surprised, devastated, humiliated, and I felt like a failure.
Surprised because I was given no reason to know that my drawings were insufficient, none.  There were no comments or statements to me that I needed to fix my drawings, so this was a huge surprise.  Second, I felt humiliated because when your work is rejected you feel rejected and this is the feeling that truly sucks.  And a failure…….well Mr. Know-it-All told me to stop saying that after I described myself as a failure (probably too many times), in the days ahead, but that’s how I felt. So then I did what any normal girl would do;  I cried to my mom who is always there for me and I thought she would let me whine, but she told me to pick myself up, be the fighter that I am, and to put on my big girl panties. 
Since thinking a lot about the entire situation I have found that there was no justification for the loss of the job.  I was never told there was a problem with my drawings until that fateful day when I was told I lost the job.  Now that I look back I see there was lack of communication to me in order to push me out.  The contracting firm didn’t want me to fix the problem and they already had someone else lined up to replace me.  I was kept out of meetings that I should have been a part of and I have figured out that really it boils down to money which is the root of all kinds of evil.  The contracting firm found someone cheaper and broke their contract with me.  This I am sure of.   
And why am I being so transparent?  Because this is the only way I know how to be and I feel that this is the best way for me to be a witness for Jesus’ love.  Since this I have found peace in my Jesus who is so gracious to me in all things.  I held on to His promises.  He is my Rock.  The miracle for me in all of this was, the phone call was on a Friday afternoon and by Sunday morning I was still hurting in my heart.  I went to church and was given an encouraging word from God in the sermon that day.  What a blessing!  I cannot say how blessed I felt when God had a special word for me that day.  I felt loved. 
So all of this to say, this is real life. Not everything goes easily in life, not everything goes smooth, but Jesus is there every step of the way.  And since all of this He has brought more jobs into my little cabinet life and I am swamped, in a good way….
Thank you so much for reading, thank you for following, I always want to be transparent and I will end with this;
Never. Give. Up.
your custom cabinet girl

10 things i learned at the NYNow show this year

I decided to do a list. 
10 things I learned at the NY Now Show this year.

1.Setting up my booth with Mr. Know-it-All was interesting…..He’s a creeper.

2. Retail is changing the way companies look at merchandise and selling. Amazon is King and I am in the back seat.

3.  Sales people across the US are questioning if shows are the way to go in order to get your product to buyers.

4. Mr. Know-it-All thinks he knows it all.

5. On a rainy day, you can go right up to the top of the Empire State Building and have literally no wait time in line.  They let you go all the way up for a small price of $39 😉

6. I met some really nice business men from Japan who bought some of my boards.  I got to put a pin on my world map in Osaka Japan.

7. I got to meet with the former president of Williams-Sonoma for dinner. We are friends now and he got to meet Mr. Know-it-All, but I don’t know if he knows I call him that.

8. I didn’t see all the small business owners like I did in 2013.  I am thinking they not going to the shows anymore……….

9.  I am wondering how I am going to sell more online in my store and how to incorporate that…..

10.  By Wednesday night I was so tired from the show and going out all night I could hardly keep my eyes open. 

This show was an eye opener for me in that it did not produce the results I received in 2013.  Are the buyers that came before not going to the shows?  Are the buyers going online now?  They are closing more retail stores throughout the US so maybe.  I have a lot to think about.  But I do know one thing.

I will never give up.

your custom cabinet girl

NY i’m coming

New York is on the horizon and I will be on my way in one week.  I am taking Mr. Know-it-All this time because I thought it would show him what I do at these events and I get to boss him around and tell him what to do.  Totally not the whole reason I am going….. (I need his height in order to put up the walls we made for the booth)…….
I have not attended the New York show for 3 years so it will be nice to get reacquainted with buyers I have not seen in awhile and get to know new ones. 
I also have some new product I am excited to bring.  Like the “Le Carre Petit”
I have been trying so hard to get into QVC and HSN and I’ve been told my product needs to walk itself off the table.  So if somehow I can make this board move telepathically it looks like I’ll have a winner. 
But you know, when you just know, that you have an excellently made product, and it doesn’t fall apart, and its meant to last, and its aesthetically pleasing to the eye……… and you just know it will sell………… I just can’t stop trying to sell to the biggest retailers.
And that’s why “NEVER GIVE UP” is my motto for life. 
So I’m going to New York to see these buyers in person and make out like the retail genius I am (just kidding) and try to sell… sell…. sell……
Pray for me…..
your custom cabinet girl 

only girl in the room

Today was so exciting and I was nervous like always.  I had a meeting at Stanford for all the preliminary cabinet stuff and I have to begin measuring the houses for cabinets. I was sitting in the meeting and we were talking and going over plans, and after about an hour I happened to look around the table…………….slowly I realized two things;
1) I was the only girl in the room
2) I was able to go to this meeting and represent the company by myself
I got a smile on my face……
its the little things……
at 37 years old, I feel I am beginning to learn how to represent the company in a way that my dad taught me how all of these years working for him and with him. 
as I was leaving I took a photo of the progress of the houses….
And I loved the traffic going home………the 2 1/2 hr drive…….and the bugs on the windshield were just a bonus….
I am not complaining, I am grateful, so grateful for the work.
I will be going back within a few days to start checking measurements so I can order cabinets and I cannot believe that I am at this stage.  Its here!
I’m excited and I’m nervous………..
your custom cabinet girl

i love rejection

Someday in the near future, (ok maybe in 15 years), i am going to write a book, and the title will be “i love rejection.”  Only because I actually hate rejection right now, i am going to work on loving it.
But in the spirit of figuring this out, here is why i hate rejection: 
Rejection is messy because it makes me cry.
Rejection is climatic because you are in anticipation for usually a lengthy amount of time for the “yes” answer and then you get a “no, sorry about your bad luck.” 
Rejection gives me that yucky feeling inside that I wasn’t good enough.
Rejection makes you think the “rejecter” just doesn’t like you and I just want people to like me.
Rejection makes me angry.
Rejection makes me grumpy.
Rejection just plain sucks.
So with that I have some rejections I am feeling this week, and I need to get them off my chest.

First up, is HSN which was so kind to even consider my cutting boards for their on air show but ultimately declined.  This rejection was sad to hear on a early Monday morning, but a little easier to handle because I knew it was a long shot.  I’ve found that my products being made in the US cannot compete with the pricing of the products made elsewhere and this makes for hard negotiations. Ultimately cutting boards in general do not sell well on air and because HSN has tried to sell other brands of boards on air and they didn’t sell well………..  But how can you compare my boards with those other boards?  Its like trying to convince that boyfriend that broke up with you cause he just doesn’t like you to take you back.  It just doesn’t work.

Second up, measuring jobs.  I measured a job this week pretty far away, 60 miles to be exact and thought I had a good chance at getting the job.  Ultimately they said they were going to wait and not go ahead and of course I feel rejected.  Did I not give enough information? Was my presentation bad?  Did my cabinets cost to much?  Did i come off as unknowledgeable? What is it??  Ultimately i know the rules, you can send an email or make a phone call and ask what could I have done better to get the job, but i think I am afraid of the answer………..

So……..this is me loving rejection.

i am going to let it soak in,
revel in it,
swim in it until my fingers get all pruney,
 bask in the sunlight of rejection,
oh how i love rejection,
ultimately it will bring me knowledge of how i can do better,
how i can try to negotiate better,
how i can learn to take criticism with ease,
it will make me tough,
it will make me inspirational,
it will make me feel inspired,
i’m feeling better already……

i am going to use this new found rejection knowledge while waiting to hear back on another shenanigan that i have coming up……..
hopefully the answer will be a yes……
because i hate rejection.
your custom cabinet girl


i couldn’t make this up if i tried…….

So while I was away in Vegas at the Market Show not meeting the buyers that I was told would be there I got an email from an Adam Housley.  I was already in a great mood when I got his email as you can tell.  He went to my website and found me because I am local and asked if I wouldn’t mind having a table with my boards and wine items at his Winery for Wine & Chocolate Weekend Feb. 13th & 14th. 

(keep in mind I didn’t look up anything about the winery yet)……

I’m going to be very honest, I didn’t want to go.  I have had terrible sales at all the last 3 shows I’ve tried and I was in the middle of one when I was asked to go to Wine & Chocolate and I thought, I can’t take much more of this spending money and not making any.  So I said, “I’d think about it.” 

Well, Adam called the office when I got back. I asked him how much it would cost for me to have my booth and he said, “nothing, I just want you to be there with your great items and sell them.”  Still, I told Adam “I would think about it.”  You know, I would be spending time away from Mr. Know-it-All and the boys and there might be some sports game on TV that I would have to miss. Darn.  So on a whim when Adam emailed me again I just typed out “I’m in” and hit send.  This was a week before the event and I still wasn’t thinking about it much, but by the Wednesday before I started looking up the winery online. 

Its called Housley’s Century Oak Winery and is literally a mile away from my house.  I was trying to find out a little about Adam and how he was connected to the winery.  I couldn’t find anything about him except an “Adam Housley” that was a senior correspondent for Fox News kept coming up.  Well I thought, that’s not who I was talking to, so I just kept looking and I could not find anything else. 

By Friday night I had talked to Adam on the phone that day to verify when I needed to be at the winery and what I was bringing and so forth, and I decided to get out the big guns, my computer and started investigating the winery again………and I was so wrong!! 
I had been talking to “The Adam Housley” the senior correspondent at FOX NEWS!! 
I told you, I couldn’t make this stuff up!

So of course I am in bed researching on my computer and I screamed at Mr. Know-it-All!! 
Mr. Know-it-All just played it cool and told me to calm down, and act natural the next day…..well I totally didn’t.  Adam’s a celebrity!!  HELLO!!!!!!!!

So to tell you a few things about Housley’s Century Oak Winery:
A) They have amazing wine, its really good!
B) They are located 22211 N. Lower Sacramento Road Acampo, Ca 95220 their website is www.centuryoakwinery.com
C) They are all a hard working family and the most down to earth nicest people you will meet.
D) And they thought my products were great!

Also, to top things off I met Adam’s brother Arik who owns his own grocery store called Ranch Markets in Napa Valley.  He wants to try to carry my cutting boards in his store and feels they would sell very well. 

All I can say is God was trying to give me a gift of being able to present my product locally, in a winery, down the street from my house, get me some new business connections, and I kept hesitating and thinking about it………..
I am so glad I said “Yes!” 

So just in case you think I am making this up, here is the proof.  I have a picture with Arik Housley, me, and Adam Housley in the winery just after the Wine & Chocolate ended on Sunday.

Mr. Know-it-All took the photo, and I didn’t get to fix my makeup or hair, whatever….
I’m looking forward to sharing what happens next,
your custom cabinet girl


so…….youre sayin’ i have a chance……….

Do you remember the movie Dumb & Dumber when Lloyd asks Mary if he has a chance to be with her?  Mary says, “your chances are one in a million” and then Lloyd replies, “so you’re sayin’ I have a chance!”
I love that line. It just confirms that you can look at anything with your glass half full even when your glass only has a drop left in it because you still have a chance.  It might be a minute chance but its still a chance.  You must still believe.  I really do believe in second chances and I also believe in asking for the impossible because you never know what the answer could be…… until you ask.
Today I found out that “The Chew” received the cutting boards I sent and they love them and will be using them.  My dad suggested that I decide to be bold and ask if I could come on their show to talk about the boards and how fun they are to make and use while working in the kitchen.  I think its a long shot, my glass has a drop left in it, and I’m really reaching, but you know what?  That wonderful girl that works for “The Chew” said she would do what she can!  She said to keep doing what I’m doing because its awesome!  
I am grateful for the encouragement from New York City to little Lodi, California and I look forward to following up! 
your custom cabinet girl